Ins and Outs of First Contact - Part 1

So, you've found an online dating site that you are interested in. Now the adventure of online dating begins...

You might want to start by trying the quick searches and the matches the site sends. Don't forget to make use of the special services offered, like:

• Smart selection where you find a profile that interests you, then click on smart selection or show similar profiles button---the site will send you other profiles that are similar too the one you like. All you have to do is sit back and relax. Such facilities under different names are offered by most ‘top’ dating sites.

• One can do a “key word” search—use words that are of importance to you—fishing, writing, plays, acting, and so on. Use common interests to locate possible men.

• Search using specifics--fill in specific criteria like: age, height, location, body type, hair/eye color and so on. Then save these specifics and search using them as base line.

• Use “break the ice” option—when you spy a profile you like, click on “break the ice.” Pen a message that is in synchrony with your mood. The site will forward the message along with your profile for consideration. Apart from being databases of men and women seeking partners, sites take dating a step further by putting ‘filters’ in place to weed out unsuitable candidates. So, you can be reasonable sure about the profiles you are vetting.

Online sites allow you a chance to know a lot about possible suitors—you can ask questions about hobbies, career, education, family, relationships, political affiliation, religious beliefs, and more.

Many of them have a system by which they match profiles, and then mail suitable ones for your consideration. They also lend anonymity - you need not reveal personal details until you really want to or have to.