When you first get started, the whole online dating game may seem intimidating.. There are so many choices – the question that will crowd your mind is…
“Which site should I choose?”
First create a budget and decide how much you want to invest on online dating. Some sites charge a one-time fee while others a recurring monthly fee. A few are free. Second, do some research and find out whether anyone known to you has used a site and what their experience was. Third, read an online dating guide –most of these provide valuable information. Then, set aside quality time to ‘check out” sites thrown up by search engines…do a personal survey of what each offers.
There are special “niche sites” catering to specific requirements like religious affiliations, sexual preferences, political beliefs and so on. So, if you do have any preferences that you are particular about you must look for sites that offer such choices.
Jot down the pros and cons of a few sites that you are inclined towards and check out the number of members, as well as any reviews by outside agencies on the site in question.
Some sites offer a free, limited period membership—to give you a taste – avail of the offer. Also, consider joining more than one site—it will increase greatly your chances of meeting someone.
Choosing a site is a personal preference. Each site has its advantages as well as disadvantages. Many have several safety measures in place. Yet others are lax and could be misused by members who are not suitable. You need to decide what you’re comfortable with.
Most sites will require the creation of a profile that possible dates will read and contact you by. Some sites require a detailed profile while others let you create your own version.
How much you want to reveal --- what aspect of your life/personality, is for you to decide. Keep in mind, what you say should paint a word picture of who you are—be precise as well as honest about yourself.
What the profile does not indicate can be conveyed in subsequent e-mails and chat room chats or over a phone. Don’t come on too strongly – men will steer clear of you if they get the impression that you are a strong woman.
If the dating site has specific questions in key areas, like children, try and be totally honest. If you have children, say so. If you want children, say so. You can’t build a life-long relationship by misleading a man about something as important as whether you have or would like children.
Remember, it’s a numbers game. You need to get as many potential lovers to see your profile as possible (within your budget). You also need to be able to review as many profiles as possible.
Don’t assume that submitting your profile and attaching a photo is enough. You need to cast your net as wide as possible. Start searching using your desired criteria in your local area and then systematically expand your search until, if necessary, you’ve covered the whole country – love knows no boundaries. Obviously, it may not be practical for one or both of you to travel several hours to see each other, but don’t be too quick to rule this out. Absence can often make the heart grow fonder.
Be sure to look for a site that offers personality and compatibility testing or advice services. The process in these sites is a bit slower but the ultimate goals reached are what you could be seeking—the chances of your finding the true love of your life are highly likely.
Popular sites are: eharmony.com; match.com; date.com; and americansingles.com. Many daters increase their chances of meeting Mr. Right by joining more than one site.
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