Online Dates

Ins and Outs of First Contact - Part 4

2011-02-10T20:08:00.000-08:00

Take what online dating has to offer with a smile---there are so many avenues and possibilities. You can if you do things right meet Mr. Right---a man with whom you feel a connection, there is chemistry, and you have lots in common.

A great fulfilling romance is one for life’s purest joys. When you meet a partner with whom you can share values, attitudes, love, as well as grief you would have found your dream.

To achieve this you must have a sense of purpose. Be ready to have fun and head in the “right” direction. Take dating slowly—those who date for two years before marrying have successful marriages as they have worked all the kinks out and are sure where they are headed. The saying “haste makes waste” applies to dating.

Have a realistic expectation. There are no such things like Prince Charming or Sir Galahad –men are men and have good traits as well as bad ones. Try and strike a balance. Find a man who cares and is understanding but don’t expect him to give up “buddy nights” or fishing because you are now a part of his life.

The “key” is look forward to: sharing a few interests and to having separate ones.

Be responsible and address any serious issues right in the beginning. Problems like alcoholism, drug dependency, temper tantrums, smoking, emotional dysfunctions, or physical abuse never resolve later.

Date with your eye open—be aware of the plus as well as minus points. Don’t rush into passionate relationships. Listen to your mind and heart.

Just follow the unwritten rules of online etiquette and enjoy yoursel.

Ins and Outs of First Contact - Part 3

2011-02-09T20:04:00.000-08:00

Always Remember To:

Choose a creative user name. This will ensure that men searching through profiles will pause, be intrigued, and want to know more. You must be different stand out from the hundreds of profiles.

Coin a flirty headline. It should pack a punch and yet be short and sweet. You will never capture a man’s attention if you just select one from the many samples posted online. Try not being aggressive or bossy or simpering –witty works.

Men are visual creatures and are mostly attracted by appearance. Be sure to post a flattering photo.

Respond to e-mails with care. Avoid writing a novel—men have short attention spans. So, answer questions, be witty, ask a few questions—make it short and sweet not a saga.

Write responses to everyone. That way you will meet many more possible suitors. Your response percentage should be at least 80%.

Navigate successfully by:

Staying happy, confident, and positive while e-mailing or IM ing men. Don’t overwhelm the other person by coming on too strong—keep it light and friendly. Be sure to pace yourself.

Use the photos posted to make an opinion of a man—there is a saying that a picture can speak a thousand words. Read up on how to look at pictures and read character.

Never rush things along—control the pace of the online relationship, never hurry and make plans to meet before you know ‘enough’ about a person.

Before meeting take another step of caution, speak on the phone at least 2-3 times. Women can make suggestions too! Don’t speak from a personal phone or mobile use the safe services provided by dating services.

Listen to your heart—if you get negative thoughts or bad vibes then end the contact.

When you are ready to meet in person do so in a public place—make it a four some it is safer.

Ins and Outs of First Contact - Part 2

2011-02-08T20:00:00.000-08:00

An advantage to you is that you can ignore or delete e-mails that you are just not interested in. You do not have to undergo the agony of saying “sorry no.” And since you “meet” possible suitors from behind a computer you are able to overcome fears as well as shyness.

Unlike dates where you meet one to one, a dating site allows you to look through hundreds of profiles without any pressures. There are innovations on a few sites—you can send emoticons, virtual flowers, and more to possible daters showing that you are interested. You can send winks, smiles, as well as virtual flowers to show interest. You can make the initiate and contact a profile that interests you--- say I read your profile and found x, y, and z, interesting. Be sure to mention something about yourself and weave in factors about him that you found interesting. Weave in casual comments as well as humor. Never sound needy or desperate.

They offer online chats as well as forums where you can actually virtually meet men. At first you must just observe how these work, choose one with a subject that is of interest to you. Communicate naturally and honestly. Use a name that describes you but not your true identity. Converse casually and as though you are in conversation with someone. Be polite and respectful, if you are wrong about something be magnanimous and accept it. There is no harm in admitting that you don’t know something. Try not to bring up past relationships or experiences. Have fun and look forward to making new friends.

Having facilities from where you can both send e-mails and receive them without revealing personal details. This is a safety feature to protect you from unwanted suitors. Finally, they have systems where “daters” can speak to one another without revealing their locations or phone numbers. The site protects you at all times.

However, even while using an online dating site you must ensure your own safety. Never reveal personal details, workplace addresses, phone numbers, or bank account details, it is best if you don’t speak about where you shop, have lunch, or spend evenings.

You should only speak about these once you are confident about a man and have had the time to “check him out.”

Online dating sites can be rewarding, fun, exciting and a secure environment for meeting new people. But the most reliable safety measure that anyone can take or have is common sense; trust your basic instincts more than anything else.

Ins and Outs of First Contact - Part 1

2011-02-07T19:55:00.000-08:00

So, you've found an online dating site that you are interested in. Now the adventure of online dating begins...

You might want to start by trying the quick searches and the matches the site sends. Don't forget to make use of the special services offered, like:

Smart selection where you find a profile that interests you, then click on smart selection or show similar profiles button---the site will send you other profiles that are similar too the one you like. All you have to do is sit back and relax. Such facilities under different names are offered by most ‘top’ dating sites.

One can do a “key word” search—use words that are of importance to you—fishing, writing, plays, acting, and so on. Use common interests to locate possible men.

Search using specifics--fill in specific criteria like: age, height, location, body type, hair/eye color and so on. Then save these specifics and search using them as base line.

Use “break the ice” option—when you spy a profile you like, click on “break the ice.” Pen a message that is in synchrony with your mood. The site will forward the message along with your profile for consideration. Apart from being databases of men and women seeking partners, sites take dating a step further by putting ‘filters’ in place to weed out unsuitable candidates. So, you can be reasonable sure about the profiles you are vetting.

Online sites allow you a chance to know a lot about possible suitors—you can ask questions about hobbies, career, education, family, relationships, political affiliation, religious beliefs, and more.

Many of them have a system by which they match profiles, and then mail suitable ones for your consideration. They also lend anonymity - you need not reveal personal details until you really want to or have to.

What You Should Know About Online Dating

2011-02-02T22:38:00.000-08:00

There are a few things that a person has to know about online dating before one getting involved in it. Online dating may seem to be the simplest thing in the world but it is not. It should be viewed in all earnestness or things could go haywire. Every game has its rules and unless you know all the rules you just can’t become a good player and eventually a winner.

Take people. There are so many kinds around. Just look around you, how many people you know look the same? Sizes, builds, shapes, features, they are all so different. And that is just about the external appearances. And when it comes to character, it becomes a very different story altogether. Take a trip down memory lane, go back to your class rooms and take a look
around.

A classroom is one place where we get to interact with a lot of different people on a very close basis. We get to rub shoulders and corners with very different people and we get to know them on a one to one basis.

So how many of your classmates did you genuinely like? I don’t mean like them as classmates but as people. Was it easy to get along with all of them? That is why we often end up with best friends or clichés in classrooms.

We do not have to like every body. The tastes and interests of one person might match with ours while the tastes and interests of another person may be at complete loggerheads with ours.

So when it comes to dating, it is very much the same story. But over here there are some strings attached. Unlike in a classroom contact, most people go on dates with a more impressive purpose, and that is to find a life mate. There are a hundred and one things that should match before two people decide to spend the rest of their lives with each other.

Finding Yourself After Being Dumped

2011-01-26T21:52:00.000-08:00

Have you been dumped recently? You may be feeling kind of lost.If you spend your days just walking around in a fog and nothing seems to go right you need to learn how to fix it, especially if you want to try to get your ex back. There are specific steps you can take to help you do this.

First, you need you back. If you want to try to get your ex back you will need to be confident and self assured. So, work through your pain and anger before contacting your ex. Otherwise they will feel they need to be on the defensive and you will do nothing more than alienate them further.

If you have been dumped it may take a while for the pain and anger to subside. Take as much time as you need to feel your feelings and deal with them as they surface. Then decide what it is you want and go for it. If what you want is to get your ex back then do it. Be careful though, like I said make sure you have you back and you are in a good frame of mind or else anything you try will not work and may even backfire.

when you are ready, call your ex on the phone and ask if they would like to meet you for coffee and a talk. If they are willing to meet you, you need to have planned out what you want to say. This isn't the time to fly by the seat of your pants. It's also important that you don't start off by asking them, or begging them, to get back together. Now is the time to try and reconnect and remind them how much fun the two of you used to have.

Hopefully by this point you have addressed the issues you had, or whatever it was that caused problems in your relationship in the past. If so, this meeting could be a great time to let your ex see these improvements with their own two eyes.

Of course, if the two of you are going to make things work for the long haul both of you will most likely need to assess your habits and attitudes and make some changes. Now isn't the time to worry about that though, the only person you can change is you. For now, let that be your focus. Than when the two of you get back togeher and you are trying to keep things strong you can work on other issues that may be driving a wedge between you and creating difficulty in your relationship.

There is always hope. No matter how much the two of you have been through you can still find a way to get back together and make things work out much better the second time. Even if you've been dumped there is still hope for a much better future.

For the best step-by-step plan to win an ex back that I've seen, click here.

Why Does Online Dating Keep Climbing Up the Popularity Poll?

2011-01-18T16:04:00.000-08:00

It's simple really. The same reason that the internet has grown in popularity - it opens up a whole new world of communication and contact.

Speed

Try to picture what used to happen earlier in the days when people had to depend on the good old postal system. During those days, a person had to wait for one or two days for a letter to get across to a person who lived in the same state itself. The second person in turn would take one or two days to respond and this letter would take on ortwo days to get back to the first person.

So in effect, a single correspondence would stretch over a week. But now it’s a totally different story. The time taken for the first letter and the response has been brought to an amazing 2 minutes! Waiting may make the heart grow fonder but e-mail makes two get close faster!

Privacy

The Internet provides for absolute privacy too. One can carry out communication with another person in the absolute privacy of one’s bedroom or bathroom or wherever one chooses to be. There is no fear of eavesdropping (ugh) or over hearing (shudder!) thanks to e-mail and chat facilities.

Options and Opportunities

The Internet provides for other options like voice chat or video conferencing and stops short only of the physical touch. But then who would want to start a relationship by touching right away? You can see a person, talk to a person, and listen to the person’s
voice; can you think of a better way to start a date?

Economy

All this and more are possible thanks to the Internet and the best part is that all this comes to you for peanuts. All you need is a P.C (who doesn’t have one?) and an Internet Connection (how can anybody live without one) and you are all set. The only thing more you could ask for is a step-by-step guide to find your dream date…well here it is!

We all know that man is a social being. However man is also a lonely being. (And when we say man, we mean women too). Man longs for company. Company not just from friends and the family, but from that special person with whom he or she can share those sweet nothings, those simple pleasures and pains, someone with whom he or she can build a whole newlife, someone with whom he or she can raise a family of his or her own.

Now this is a fundamental need of man: to find a life mate. And the most popular method used for this is dating. When we talk about dating in the very finest sense of the word, please understand that dating is not to be viewed as a precursor for sleeping together. It is much more than that. It is the first step towards choosing a life partner and online dating has made the
whole process a lot simpler now.

What Makes Online Dating Different from Regular Dating?

2011-01-18T13:35:00.000-08:00

Since the very beginning us humans have been choosing partners. Even so, the ways of going about choosing a mate is different according to your culture.

But the concept of finding a life partner with the help of the Internet is a fairly recent concept when compared with the history of mankind as such. Of course the Internet and computers have influenced man’s life so muchthat it is no surprise that in the matters of finding a suitable partner too, the Internet has made its presence felt.

Online dating is, to put is very simply or flatly, finding a partner with the help of a machine namely the computer via the Internet. That itself makes the idea and the process a very novel one indeed. Hundreds of happy people across the globe have been successful in finding suitable partners by the means of online dating.

But to be frank with you, a lot of not-so-lucky persons have been goofed and jilted by the same process. So in order to make sure that you find a place in the first list let us go into the details of Online dating.

Everything that applies to the Internet, applies to Online dating as well. The Internet as we know allows for unlimited possibilities in communication, and it is this feature that has proved to be at the same time the biggest boon, as well as bane for Online dating.

People can start from scratch and get to know everything about each other before the actual meeting takes place. Tastes and preferences, likes and dislikes, interests and obsessions can be discussed on a one to one basis so that when the meeting actually takes place these two people are not in the least strangers to each other. Wonderful, isn’t it?

But at the same time this possibility for unlimited communication leaves a lot of space for guile as well. The human race is endowed with a remarkable ability to use, misuse and abuse the same thing. And naturally, online dating too has been and is still being used for vile purposes.
The person who is misusing this facility may either be a practical joker or may be someone with more devious intentions who is out to get some victims. It is because of this reason that a little bit of homework is good before you actually hit the road.

3 Tips to Help Pull Your Ex Back

2011-01-18T10:04:00.000-08:00

Finding the Man of Your Dreams

2010-12-16T08:12:00.000-08:00

Doesn't every woman want the man of her dreams.? The fact is, you have to be practical when choosing your mate. If you’re looking for an absolute stud, with a big bank account and a 4-garage door mansion – you have to be sensible.

Learn about the art of giving and caring. Romance is not the superficial aspects of dating - flowers, gifts, romantic evenings, and wooing. It is about showing you care, small endearing gestures, deep understanding of even a glance, and a synchronization of minds as well as soul.

To be practical one must set goals/parameters Answer these questions:

“What kind of man do I want?”

"How do I perceive my future—do children play a role?”

“What does a relationship mean to me personally? Is it caring, friendship, passion, being physical or mental compatibility?”

What do you seek in a man? Is it, humor, loyalty, fairness, respect, warmth, intelligence, kindness, integrity, honesty, tenderness, pride, chivalry?

What should the ideal man look like?

Should he smoke and drink.

What are 5 things I abhor in men?

What are 5 things I find pleasing and attractive?

Do I want a single man or will I accept one who has been in past relationships—divorced/widowed?

What kind of profession should he be in?

Create a profile as a ready reference. Use this to compare profiles you read online with. Narrow down the choices. Be sure you know how to distinguish between Mr. Right and Mr. Wrong.

According to experts in dating:

A man who drinks heavily, is loud and mannerless is definitely Mr. Wrong.

A good man would be well mannered and considerate and limit his drinking. He would not brag about bar hopping, drinking buddies, or bouts. He would never drink and drive a date home.

A less than perfect man is one who is selfish, self obsessed, spends all his time talking about himself, his work, personal experiences, how he is a stud -- a total braggart.

A man who is serious about dating and wishes to further the meet will try and find out as much as he can about you. He will share important aspects of his life with you, and try and give insights into his likes/dislikes, hopes as well as aspirations.

The wrong kind will flirt with other women while he sits with you, let his attention wander, speak about how he finds ‘x’ lovely or ‘y’ a turn on. He will brag about his conquests every chance he gets. Self-obsessed he will never think beyond himself.

An ideal man will not flirt unless he knows you well, he will never pass lewd remakes, or make passes, or advertise his conquests.

The wrong kind is flashy and will flaunt their money as well as wealth/position. If he is handsome and has a good physique he will be obsessed by it –constantly glance in mirrors, comb his locks, and wink at passers by and so on.

A man who is just perfect will be interested in more than a physical relationship—he will try and understand what makes you tick and find out whether the two of you have any common grounds.

Watch out for men who:

Lie to you.
Pressure you to meet them immediately.
Are persistent about finding out personal information but do not reveal anything about themselves.
Do not give accurate information about their age, martial status, having children, profession and so on.
Who do not want to speak on the phone.
Become a nuisance and pester you to speed things up.

Try and strike a balance. However, do allow for a little flexibility. A man may not match all your requirements but even if he matches say 60% then you must try and get to know him better.

Broaden your base—this will offer you greater choice. But do not compromise on things like “no smoking”-- a man who has smoked and been independent for years together is not likely to give up his habits because you say so.

It is not tall, dark, and handsome you must look for its kindness, caring, and intelligence. Very often, if physical attributes receive more attention then what you are likely to get is a man looking for a fling and not willing to offer any commitments.

If you are clear in your mind “what you want” then everything else becomes relatively easy. Please have a realistic opinion of yourself—if you are approaching thirty and fighting the flab, have a sprinkling of grey hair you are not going to land a man who is dashing, drives a Ferrari, and looks like a Hollywood dream. Try and match what you are to the man ---seek compatibility.

Presenting - the REAL You!

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You need to be able to show the "real you" to the online world. To do that, you must know yourself well…There should be no layers or hidden components. Wouldn’t you be upset if you read an online profile and met the individual who turned out to be very different from what their profile says? It happens all the time.

S0, if you are serious about dating and being successful you must desist from penning a fairy tale or living it. Fabricating incidents or stories is just not done. If you are really seeking to get close to a man then you will not be able to carry on living a lie however small forever.

Be honest with yourself—just as you are suspicious /wary of people so also men who are trying online dating. Contradictions are unnecessary and very negative. You will agree that “we are what we are” and cannot by using mere words turn into glamorous women or someone adventurous.

White lies and contradictions are guarantees of being dumped. Once a man realizes he cannot trust you he will steer clear. Not only that your reputation will spread like wildfire.

One thing that is crucial is that “we have to live with ourselves and be happy.” So, it is best to be with a man who accepts you for what you are and does not expect you to change. Never be afraid to say “I detest plays/or fancy clothes are not ME/ or I love balloon rides.”

Relationships only work when a man and woman live the life of two distinct individuals and yet share bonds, love, and common interests. There must be personal space and freedom in a relationship. Otherwise bitterness will creep in.

So, be yourself and seek a man who suits you best. He may not be drop dead handsome but may have a sense of humor, care about the little things in life, and appreciate you.

Sit down and ask yourself, “What am I seeking.” And, write down all that flows from your mind. Put the book away and after a day or two repeat the exercise -points that are common to both days are probably what are most important. Others will be the result of moods.

Take the time and make the effort of looking through profiles as well as experiences posted by other women. You will gain a fairly good idea of what works and what does not. I’m not suggesting that you copy someone else’s profile word for word, but you can get ideas of good phrases and the type of stuff they include.

Next, read through profiles posted by men and make a list of what appeals to you. Gain an understanding of what they’re looking for (apart from the obvious physical characteristics), and you will be able to include some aspects in your profile—be sure they pertain to who you are and not to an idea of you in your imagination. Don’t go over the top, though --if you say that you love sitting in front of the TV, watching all types of sport, whilst eating a ready meal with a few cans of beer, you’ll probably find a suitable man, but may not have a blissful life!

Avoid negativity or sounding doubtful---don’t start with “I’m surprised I’m doing this ….”, or “I’ve never done this before ….” You’re opening line is important, so don’t waste it on an excuse or an apology.

Be specific about your lifestyle and interests. Rather than listing hobbies give specific examples – I have trekked the Andes, or sailed through the keys, or put together a classic car in our garage with my brother. Specifics paint word pictures of the “true you.”

Don’t come across as a dreary, lonely woman. If your life is like that make an effort to change it by adopting some hobbies, going out with friends, traveling, and doing interesting things. Make a concerted effort to be a “new you.” Discover yourself—life is too short to be spent going to work and sitting at home.

Be positive, energetic, open minded, and a giver. Never be a doormat and allow people to push you around.

Make realistic goals. However don’t come across as pushy or seeking permanency like marriage. Allow a friendship/relationship to develop before thinking about marriage. Men are spooked at the thought of commitment and will turn tail and run like a trapped animal.

Do speak of past relationships but don’t let that be the most important aspect of your existence. Never compare the present to the past. Leave what is past behind, learn from it and move forward. Don’t make the mistake of comparing men—my ex husband loved steak, or my previous boyfriend was a great dancer is “ugly and sad.”

Let your story be a “happy one” be a woman who has savored life and is ready to share the joys.

Women - How to Make Your Profile Appealing

2010-12-15T17:06:00.000-08:00

The key towards reaching success in online dating is to create an appealing profile. Your profile informs any dating prospects of your characteristics, what you’re looking for and what kinds of individual you are. Basic information includes: Appearance, interests, age, profession, hobbies, likes, dislikes, etc…This helps your online prospects make out your compatibility with each other. But remember, what really matters is your personal profile – it’s what sets you apart from a zillion others. You must take advantage of this and highlight the key elements of yourself.

List all of your passions, likes and dislikes in an interesting way. Give your readers an idea what you’re seeking, without making it sound too straight-forward. And before posting your profile, make sure to review your profile and get a friend or relative to read through it and get their honest opinion.

Most sites will ask for details of age, height, ethnicity, religion, eye color, hair color, occupation, education, smoking preference, favorite hobbies, a description of your personality, what you are looking for in a man, whether you are seeking a casual relationship, a friendship, a short-term fling, long term romance, or marriage, what is important to you in a man, your value system, beliefs, specific affiliations and more.

To be successful in love, the profile must present you in the best light and give would be suitors a glimpse or inkling of what makes you tick and how to win you over. Write as though you are in a conversation with someone. Imagine sitting across a table and telling a dashing, handsome man all about yourself.

A profile is generally of 200-250 words. Write around 150- 200 words about yourself and around 50-100 words can be devoted to describing the kind of person you are looking for.

Remember to Include:

Personal details - Where you live, whether you are open to changing your place of residence, where you have traveled and so on.

Discuss your profession – Career history as well as future plans.

Speak about past experiences and relationships. Talk about children if you have them. Be sure to mention whether you are hoping to have children or do not want any.

Tell the truth - In case you have any serious health problem be sure to write about it. People rarely like surprises.

Your personal background - One should also mention any religious or political affiliations that you may have.

The type of relationship you’d like - Mention what kind of relationship you are looking for—long term or short term.

Other important tips:

Be honest and truthful. Never fabricate scenarios or stories – ultimately if you want a serious relationship the man must know and get to like the real you.

Don’t hide facts like your age or whether you have children.

It is best to show or prove not just state facts. Instead of saying “I am funny” show you are funny by weaving in a real-life incident or joke about an experience that is etched in your memory. This will give a glimpse of you and make your profile distinct from others.

Write for the “audience” not for yourself. Never give too much or too little information.

Never be superficial.

Adjectives mean nothing, avoid them if you can ---words like nice, smart, kind, warm, loving, ambitious, go getter, family oriented are meaningless words.

While speaking of interests try and include details. For example if you like hiking—then mention where all you have been and where you plan to or look forward to going. This gives more information than listing a long line of interests—biking, tennis, dogs, movies, and so on.

Don’t use clichés in your profile; every other person is “cute/ cuddly/ tall/ looking for a friend/understanding companion,” make your profile simple, clear, and concise. Bragging is another “NO”—please do avoid subjective evaluations.

Try and define yourself positively—let the profile show who/what you are. There is no point in repeatedly stating what you want or your future aspirations.

The profile is what creates a first impression, so write one that aims to be different and is appealing as well as honest. Remember this is what a man will read before deciding should I contact her or not.

The profile should give an insight to who you really are. A great profile will increase greatly your chances of linking up with the Mr. Right—a man who meets all your needs and is not just compatible in an analytical way but is a man who is genuine and wants to know more about you—get to know the real you.

We all know it is not a perfect world and even in online dating one can encounter undesirables. To protect yourself from unwanted problems:

- Do Not list your address.

- Do Not mention your phone number.

- Do Not give away where you love to go—a bar or coffee house or library that you frequent.

- Do Not enumerate any vital statistics.

- Do Not mention financial details.

- Do Not indicate where you work or shop.

- Do Not ever say where you work out.

Always keep your personal information private until you know a guy and are sure of his credentials.

Create an Attention Getting Headline

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What draws the eye of potential suitors online? The headline.It is important for you to learn how to create a headline that will not only be eye-catching, but interest potential prospects.

Personal headlines on most sites can be of 100 characters. A poor headline can negate a good username. It is the headline that gives a first impression. A personal headline should not indicate that you are a bore, selfish, a fool, or scatterbrain. If the headline is repulsive or boring, rest assured, you will not get many queries.

A personal headline often determines the kind of person you want to meet. If you are seeking a serious relationship then your headline must not indicate “seeking fun and frolic.”

Avoid done to death phrases as well as cute ones. Adventurous, unique, and wonderful are all cliché.

The secret is to incorporate a little about yourself or to be creative and clever. Commonly coined ones are:

“I am a Lady.”
“Ask me if you can.”
“Life can be a path of roses.”
“Poet.”
“Sailing Smooth.”
“Polite, serious, and creative.”

The headline is the most important tool of an online profile—pay attention to coining it.

Let it lead men into your profile. It should tease and intrigue.
Avoid negativity ---refrain from using words like “no.”
Incorporate word play—be creative and quick.
Snappy headlines attract attention.

A headline should grab attention—it should be succinct and dead on—summing up what you are about. It should invite –tweak their curiosity to read your profile. Use word play—internal rhyme or a pun.

Examples:

“Let’s race the wind!”

“Looking for sparing partner!”

“Package deal—me, kids, pets!”

“Geek by day, poet by night!”

“Explore the world with me!”

“Walk to the beat of a new drummer!”

“Want to play doubles!”

“First date in a dozen years!”

“Think Advertising…”

Remember how the catchy phrases create imagery. The concept is similar here you are the product to be marketed. Just as “rich and creamy” conjures up images of swirls of ice cream, so also the headline should bring forth an image of an attractive, friendly woman.

As far as dating sites are concerned the most prominent things after the “photo” is the headline. Studies indicate men have a tendency to make snap judgments, so the headline should project a positive image of you.

Negativity must be avoided, never include words like lonely, companion, seeking comfort, rich and handsome. Avoidable are impressions of your being glamorous, seeking a life of leisure, or being high maintenance.

Keys are: Originality, uniqueness, be concise, positivity, fresh and candid…

Originality, candidness, humour, and freshness are welcome. The secret is in being attractive as well as mysterious. Men love challenges.

Creating a Profile - and Profile Picture

2010-12-15T12:24:00.000-08:00

Don’t write a haphazard profile and using a randomly selected photo. It is a mistake not to submit a photo with your profile. There are men out there who never contact a woman they cannot see. When you don’t include a photo, most people assume you have something to hide. According to sites people who post photos get ten times more contacts than those that don’t. Use a recent photo and one that flatters you. If you can, have a professional take the photo. Don’t post sleazy photo of yourself unless you’re looking for a sleazy relationship! Choose a nice, natural photo of yourself don’t use one that includes other people. The main photo should be a “head and shoulders” one - a close up. If the site allows more than one photo, then you can be more adventurous include, full length shots, pets, kids, and so on.

Tips on Choosing Your Online Photo:

If you don’t have any suitable recent photos, arrange to go out with friends. Relax and have fun. Get your friends to take lots of photos of you. Hopefully, you’ll get at least one that you’re happy to post.

If you have a photo of yourself in a social environment, use that one. It will give a better impression than one of you seated on your sofa at home.

Don’t post photos of yourself looking unhappy, drunk, hung-over, lonely, or on a bad hair day!

Avoid expensive accessories for your photo. It sends a high maintenance signal.

If you want to post multiple photos, make sure that they’re varied and interesting.

Avoid multiple photos taken at the same time. Don’t use it as an opportunity to demonstrate in six different ways how attractive you are. It should be an opportunity to convey the fact that you’ve got an interesting life.

It’s OK to change your photo from time to time if you come up with better ones, or if they get more than a year old.

Even if a photo is a professional one make it look casual. Never wear high fashion garments or accessories.

Dating sites often give guidelines for posting photos. For example, Yahoo personal says, Do not post pictures if:

You are not central in the photo.
The picture is off focus/hazy.
Does not convey an image of the “true you.”
Has too many people.
The picture is old not current.

One must post photos that: have a smile, show your eyes clearly, and represent in no uncertain terms you as you are. The photograph must allow your personality to shine through.

Never use photos where you are dressed in skimpy clothes or are heavily made up—ones that make you look like a bimbo (unless that is what you are). Coming through as sexy with oomph is not going to get you what you desire.

A frequent online dating blunder is negativity---feeling that the whole exercise of online dating is a futile effort. Believe me, nine out of ten things don’t work the first few weeks or months—it may even take a year.

Never be discouraged and give up—hope, patience, and persistence are what will get you to your goal. Pause a few days and take a look at “what needs correction” ---read through successful profiles and compare them to yours. Make changes in your profile as well as criteria of the “man” perhaps your list of musts is too stringent. Be flexible and you will meet many who may come up to your expectations.

Keep your mind open and have a positive attitude. Be friendly and persistent and you may find that special person who is waiting for you.

How to Avoid Online Dating Blunders

2010-12-14T09:06:00.000-08:00

You might tend to think that online dating is similar to pointing and clicking. The truth is, online dating is much more than just clicking and meeting an individual who’s profile looks too good to be true.

Many women try online dating for a practical joke…they are not serious, when they try it out; the effort made is half measures at best. The key is to make a full fledged effort to succeed.

Another online blunder is thinking men will approach you is wrong. Your “Mr. Right” is not going to come out of thin air. You need to make an effort to contact the type of man that meets your ideal. Read profiles and narrow down candidates that fit your vision of the “right man”. Be bold and contact men – don’t wait like a wall flower.

Make sure to communicate well - writing one liner messages like, “see my profile” and think that people will contact you just doesn’t work. Write and attempt to bring out the writer/poet in you. Paint words into pictures that will capture the imagination of men and that will attract them want to meet you.

A great mistake is to send out “form letters” -- like direct mailers. This is an insult to any educated person’s intelligence. Personalize the mails—make it specific to the person you are writing to. Remember this is an attempt to find Mr. Right not an exercise in answering circulars. Ideally, letters should be conversations where one discovers each other through words.

Making maximal use of the membership by contacting men at random—the idea is to use the money paid to the fullest. Think what is that you really want---correspond with many men or find the one you want to cultivate /build a relationship with.

Take the time to read all the profiles that fit your list of “The Ideal Man,” then narrow down a list of a select few—write to these, wait until they answer, try and find out as much as you can about them and then if you still have not found anyone start the process all over again.

How to Use Online Dating Sites

2010-12-14T08:02:00.000-08:00

What are the important things to check before spending time or money on a site? Check what safety measures the sites have in place—the most important ones are: anonymous e-mailing, and a secure phone system.

Other must haves are—online instant messaging, photo personals with password protection, voice chat, and local dating advice/activities.

Privacy protection is what most online dating sites aim for. All efforts are made to ensure safety to users:

Most sites have a e-mail system that never reveals an users identity. The system is designed to protect the user’s privacy.

A user name is used that has no connection whatsoever to your e-mail address. The username is coined by the user/member themselves and is a random nomenclature.

There are blocking options, which can be used to block a person from accessing your profile or even contacting you.

Many sites have a certification of trust –they are a member of the TRUSTe program. This means that they adhere in everyway to established privacy rules.

Sites also have a BBB online reliability seal, which means the site can be trusted.

Remember, you’re in a competition. The more effort you put in, the better the results you’ll get.

It requires very few resources. All that is needed is for you to make your self-available and get in touch with “like minded” singles. The dating site can be accessed from anywhere and by anyone.

Offers freedom, flexibility, and choice. You make the decision of contacting interesting profiles. You decide whether or not to answer an e-mail or message.

Posting a profile allows you to limit your search. And listing of criteria in a partner narrows down the search. A search can be tailored to suit—location, physique, age or profession.

You can have the freedom to search whenever you like—early morning, late at night, weekends, and so on. Online dating does not set borders of time or location. You need not leave your Pc and find Mr. Right.

There are many ways to interact with interesting people. Options include: e-mail, creative icons, chat rooms, instant messaging, games, voice/video greeting, dating meets as well as safe phone calls.

You can be in touch with more than one Mr. Possible. There are no restrictions you may be in touch with 5, 20, or even 100.

Fears, shyness, inhibitions, and other problems are eased in online dating, as there is no face-to-face contact until you choose to. Embarrassment at being candid or honest is also reduced.

Choose an online site with few limitations—one that features domestic as well as international people. Don’t limit your options to your immediate neighborhood or town.

Read and understand the company’s policy page as well as purpose. Be sure to read or ask for their privacy policy. Look up reviews of the site by impartial experts or users. Read the FAQ section thoroughly.

Download Alexa Toolbar, which ranks online sites with no.1 being the most popular.

Check about the payment system and whether it is secure.

Find out and ascertain what security features are in place to protect you from harm.

Quick Tips:

Be open about yourself.
Use instant messaging as well as “chat rooms” to get to know men better. It is more interactive that e-mails.
Once you are certain you would like to get to know a man better use the phone—voices reveal more than typed words. Speak on the phone as often as needed.
When you do decide to meet do so in a public place.
Always keep safety in mind.

How to Pick the Right Online Dating Site

2010-12-13T20:20:00.000-08:00

When you first get started, the whole online dating game may seem intimidating.. There are so many choices – the question that will crowd your mind is…

“Which site should I choose?”

First create a budget and decide how much you want to invest on online dating. Some sites charge a one-time fee while others a recurring monthly fee. A few are free. Second, do some research and find out whether anyone known to you has used a site and what their experience was. Third, read an online dating guide –most of these provide valuable information. Then, set aside quality time to ‘check out” sites thrown up by search engines…do a personal survey of what each offers.

There are special “niche sites” catering to specific requirements like religious affiliations, sexual preferences, political beliefs and so on. So, if you do have any preferences that you are particular about you must look for sites that offer such choices.

Jot down the pros and cons of a few sites that you are inclined towards and check out the number of members, as well as any reviews by outside agencies on the site in question.

Some sites offer a free, limited period membership—to give you a taste – avail of the offer. Also, consider joining more than one site—it will increase greatly your chances of meeting someone.

Choosing a site is a personal preference. Each site has its advantages as well as disadvantages. Many have several safety measures in place. Yet others are lax and could be misused by members who are not suitable. You need to decide what you’re comfortable with.

Most sites will require the creation of a profile that possible dates will read and contact you by. Some sites require a detailed profile while others let you create your own version.

How much you want to reveal --- what aspect of your life/personality, is for you to decide. Keep in mind, what you say should paint a word picture of who you are—be precise as well as honest about yourself.

What the profile does not indicate can be conveyed in subsequent e-mails and chat room chats or over a phone. Don’t come on too strongly – men will steer clear of you if they get the impression that you are a strong woman.

If the dating site has specific questions in key areas, like children, try and be totally honest. If you have children, say so. If you want children, say so. You can’t build a life-long relationship by misleading a man about something as important as whether you have or would like children.

Remember, it’s a numbers game. You need to get as many potential lovers to see your profile as possible (within your budget). You also need to be able to review as many profiles as possible.

Don’t assume that submitting your profile and attaching a photo is enough. You need to cast your net as wide as possible. Start searching using your desired criteria in your local area and then systematically expand your search until, if necessary, you’ve covered the whole country – love knows no boundaries. Obviously, it may not be practical for one or both of you to travel several hours to see each other, but don’t be too quick to rule this out. Absence can often make the heart grow fonder.

Be sure to look for a site that offers personality and compatibility testing or advice services. The process in these sites is a bit slower but the ultimate goals reached are what you could be seeking—the chances of your finding the true love of your life are highly likely.

Popular sites are: eharmony.com; match.com; date.com; and americansingles.com. Many daters increase their chances of meeting Mr. Right by joining more than one site.

Dating Online for Independent Women

2010-12-13T17:06:00.000-08:00

Online dating allows for you to set your own time limits and a degree of secrecy as well. It's totally up to you how much time you spend to attempt to locate “Mr. Right”. You can proceed to learn more about the individual or you can cut the relationship short and move on with no emotional strings attached. The cyber dating world, like the real world, is made up of all kinds of unique individuals – serious, funny, kinky, eccentric, as well as dangerous…

It is important to approach online dating like a pro---a management professional. The Internet is full of opportunities to find a soul mate but one must do it intelligently and with great care.

Modern technology coupled with dating innovations will help you customize your search for the “ideal” man of your dreams. You will be able to sift through thousands of eligible men to find one that matches your needs. A study in the UK revealed that there was a success rate of approximately 94%. Believe it or not there are more than 700+ online dating sites on the Internet and it is a growing business.

As women and men become more computer savvy, socializing on the net is gaining popularity. Matchmaking on the net is today becoming innovative with videos, live voice, instant messaging, and so on.

The wonderful world of online dating allows you to:

Read all about a person and his likes and dislikes in a profile—one does not have to meet the man time and again to glean a small bit of insight into him.

Specify clearly what you are seeking.

Matchmaking services will help you narrow down a choice by using compatibility rankings and questionnaires.

The online service will mail you each day many “possible” profiles for consideration. To be ‘efficient’ in your quest you would need to write down criteria of your concept of Mr. Right.

Commonly used search options are: profession, location, age, height, physical characteristics, lifestyle, birth sign, and hobbies.

Don’t be afraid, online dating is a stress free method of meeting people for fun, friendship, and love. You are the one to decide what kind of relationship you are seeking—a temporary one or a long term one; whether you want commitment or just a casual relationship.

Set your own limits or boundaries and keep to them—decide no sex until I known the man well and follow the dictum. Because a man is dashing and drop dead handsome and has charmed the ‘boots off you,” don’t jump into bed with him—wait until you are sure that’s what you want.

What Are the Main Advantages of Online Dating?

2010-12-13T09:31:00.000-08:00

Just think about it - you never have to meet in person that guy you've been talking to online. This really can help you avoid shyness and feeling uncomfortable. You can be as sexy, funny and weird as you want to be without actually getting embarrassed (same goes for the men you’ll be chatting with).

Also, you choose the type of guy you want to talk to, or meet with. You can simply set your standards and find a man that meets them instead of just taking a stab in the dark.

Instead of hoping that we will bump into the perfect man on the street, or get hooked up with the man of our dreams. We can stop dreaming, take action and simply use online dating as a tool to find the perfect guy (or close to perfect) for ourselves. I know this does not sound as romantic as some of the other options, but it is simply the most realistic one.

The overwhelming success of online dating sites is proof that the “realistic” choice is a lot more effective than simply waiting for Mr. Right. And the fact that dating sites are helping millions of people find true love and romance is proof that just because Online Dating is not something most people fantasize and read about in novels, it is the new, more realistic way to meet the man of your dreams.

So, if you are “old fashioned” I suggest you get caught up with the new times.

According to experts, dating sites have become the “good fairy” of the modern world. They are helping millions of men and women find fruitful relationships. It is using sophisticated technology to further romance.

All you need to know is what you want: long term relationship, friendship, fun and excitement etc. What ever it is you want, chances are there are dating sites that fit your needs.

Now that you know the advantages, are you ready to get started from the comfort of home?

9 Tips for Successful Dating - for Women

2010-12-13T09:14:00.000-08:00

Women need to be smart about how they date, as well as who they date. Check out these tips for a refresher course on being smart and prepared.

• Realize who you are and what you want by having a clear vision of what life means/holds for you.

• Set and achieve a “goal” by developing a workable relationship plan.

• Be selective and prepared to take the onus for the choices you make.

• Try and attain a balance between the heart and mind-- emotions and sensibility.

• Use the “law of attraction” to your benefit.

• Hone your relationship skills and knowledge.

• Make use of well meaning support by creating a support group around you.

• Win by being assertive, realistic, and honest—say “no” firmly and when you decide “yes” then stick by your decision. Set down boundaries for yourself—keeps the going clear and focused.

• Be a successful and fulfilled single –never put life on hold or make finding a relationship/man the sole purpose of your life.

These tips can help assure that you are ready to find the right relationship - and stay true to yourself also.

Finding the Good Men

2010-12-13T08:00:00.000-08:00

We are all looking for love and that special someone to share our lives with. All women desire to be loved and yearn for romance.us has the desire to be loved and have the need for romance. It’s a natural part of our existence - everyone needs love.

However, with all the work, hassles and distractions we experience day to day, not all of use have the leisure time to find that one individual, or someone to fall in love with.

Let’s face it, not everyone has the time to linger at night clubs and bars every single week. Not only does clubbing and bars take up a lot of your time, it’s also draining, physically and financially.

Of course, there are many other options to meet a man you might like…Speed dating, dating agencies, newspaper columns, coffee houses, phone dating and, of course, online dating.

Let's focus focus on the simplest, least expensive and most convenient ways to get to know as many quality men as you like…all from the comfort of your own home!

Now, let's talk about online dating...

Unlike conventional dating, online dating is not expensive, safe and totally comfortable. You don’t need to spend thousands on clothing, dinners and nights out, don’t need to spend time with anyone you don’t like and can pick, choose and get to know as many men as you like from the comfort of your own home.

On a regular date, you get to meet and spend time with just one man. In the online dating world, you can literally chat and get to know 100 men before you even meet them in person.

You can sit around in your robe, while eating popcorn and still meet the man of your dreams. You can get to know men that interest you and you only need to actually meet a man face-to-face when you are absolutely sure you would like to get to know him better.

Begin to see the advantages of online dating?

FInding Mr. Right Online - What Are the Odds?

2010-04-25T23:20:00.000-07:00

Actually, finding Mr. Right online is not as far fetched as you might think. It doesn’t happen for everyone, of course, but it can happen for you. The world of internet or online dating has exploded over the last few years.

As our lives become busier and busier we need to make better use of our time and energy in our search for the one man who will make our lives complete.

The old saying, “You have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find a princess” is no longer true. Why kiss frogs when you can read hundreds of profiles and look at the pictures that go with them for a small monthly fee? That saves time and money…not to mention lip burn.

These are a few good reasons to consider online dating:

(1) There is a wide range of men to choose from. You aren’t limited to the men in your social circle or work environment.

(2) You have the opportunity to get to know a lot about a man before you ever contact him for the first time. You will know his age, marital status, what city he lives in, whether he has children, his height/weight and his likes and dislikes all from his profile. You’ll even see a picture of him.

(3) You have a better chance to present yourself in a favorable way. This is especially useful for those of us who are shy. We have time to think about how we want to say things about ourselves and can avoid being tongue tied. Even those who are more extroverted can take time to reflect on who they really are before writing their online profile.

(4) Online dating is certainly a time saver. You can meet so many more men in a lot less time than you ever could out in the real world.

Online Dating Advantages for Women

2010-04-24T23:18:00.000-07:00

Back in the 1990's online dating was something that was brand new. Unlike today, most people did not own PC’s or even have access to the internet. Times have changed. Online dating is not only IN the mainstream, it IS the mainstream.

There are many reasons for the phenomenal growth of online dating sites and the number of people, men and women of all ages, races and religions who use them as their primary source for meeting people and looking for “the one”.

If you don’t believe me, just ask your friends in the “real” world. If they are honest, most of them will tell you they have or are using an online dating service.

Here are three good reasons why thousands of people sign up for dating services everyday:

(1) You can be anonymous. You will never be required to give your real name, address, email address, phone number or place of employment to another online user. You, of course, may do so but only at your own discretion and only when you feel completely safe. You are not required to post a picture of yourself. Posting a picture, however, will get more responses to your profile. So you can surf through the other members on the dating site you have joined with complete anonymity.

(2) You have so many more choices online that you do in your brick and mortar world. Before the world of online dating came of age, the choice of friends and even of lifetime partners was limited to those we came in contact with through college or work. No more…the world is your oyster. You can go through hundreds…even thousands of profiles to find the right man for you.

(3) The “safety factor” is the biggest reason of all. An online dating service will never reveal your personal information. You get to choose who has that information and when they have it.

Tips for Online Dating Safety for Women

2010-04-23T23:16:00.000-07:00

Online dating has a lot of things going for it and it can be very rewarding as well as fun. Maintaining your safety while doing it is simply a combination of using common sense and exercising good judgment. Online safety rules are the same as real world safety rules.

You wouldn’t give your name, address and phone number to a strange man that you met in a bar or on the street so you should never do that online either. Play it safe. Get to know this man who could turn out to be Prince Charming before you give out any information that could make it possible for him or others to trace you. Don’t tell a stranger exactly where you work. Say that you are a legal secretary (if that’s what you are) for a mid-sized law firm….not that you work for Brown, Smith and Jones Attorneys-at-law. It is safe to tell him what city you live in but you should wait to be any more specific than that until you have been chatting and exchanging emails for awhile.

Use only the tools provided by the dating service you belong to. Most offer chat and private email on their site. Do not give out your isp email address. If you must give out an email address make it a free one such as Hotmail or Yahoo. Your isp address is traceable for anyone who wants to go to the trouble.

When the time comes for you to have your first face-to-face, make that first meeting in a public place and during day light hours. Take a friend with you or arrange for one to call you on your cell soon after the arranged meeting.

Remember…you ARE in control so do not let anyone pressure you into revealing more personal information than you are comfortable with revealing.

Dating Online for the 30 Something Woman

2010-04-22T23:13:00.000-07:00

Life isn’t always fair. Men seem to get all the breaks. You may have spent your 20's getting established in your career. Not that you haven’t been dating…you have, but not seriously. Now here you are…30 something and there is no long term relationship in sight. You can actually hear your biological clock ticking. You have a precious few years to find a man to fall in love with, make him fall in love with you, get married, and have a baby or its lights out. You already know all of the men in your social circle. Not that they aren’t nice guys…some of them…but none of them are your soul mate. What’s a girl to do?

Consider online dating. You have the opportunity to read hundreds of profiles and look at hundreds of pictures in search of that “someone” that will be right for you. Maybe he will live in the same city you do…maybe he will live across the country or even in another country altogether. You aren’t limited to only those men that you come in contact with personally. The possibilities are almost endless.

“Is online dating safe”, you ask. “Aren’t the online dating sites made up entirely of perverts, sexual predators and weirdos in assorted shapes and sizes?” the answer is, no they aren’t. Not anymore anyway. That was true when online dating first came on the scene but now it is mainstream. It’s as safe as you make it using common sense and sound judgment. Use the same caution that you would when meeting any stranger. Don’t give your real name, address or phone number until you feel safe doing so. Don’t rush into a face-to-face meeting until you are confident and then make the first meeting in a public place and during daylight hours. Give it a try…Mr. Right might be a few mouse clicks away.

Nice Girls Date Online Too!

2010-04-21T23:10:00.000-07:00

In the beginning online dating sites consisted almost entirely of weirdos, perverts, sexual predators, social misfits and the like. That is not true today. Online dating has gone mainstream and has lost all the social stigma it once suffered. Single people of all ages, races, religions and both sexes do it. Short people, tall people, thin people, obese people do it. People from every developed country in the world do it. Nice girls do it, too. The reasons people join online dating sites are as varied as the people who join but mostly they join for three very good reasons: (1) Time (2) Money and (3) It works.

Time: You can go through hundreds of online profiles and look at hundreds of pictures in the same length of time only one real world date takes and the screening is already done for you. You can tell right away if a guy is only looking for casual relationships or long term commitments. How many times have you worked 8 hours, gone home and spent another hour getting ready to go out then gone to the local hang-out for singles only to see the same old jerks, losers and drunks that are always there?

Money: For the price of one evening out on the town you can enjoy an entire month of meeting men from the safety of your own home….do it in your jammies or sweats and with a beauty facial working its magic.

It works. It really does work if you are willing to do the right things. Write a profile that grabs attention, post recent pictures of yourself, be fun and interesting while chatting with the men you meet on line, answering emails promptly and being on time for a pre-arranged online meeting.

Does Mr Perfect Exist?

2010-04-20T23:07:00.000-07:00

Mr Perfect, sadly does not exist in real life. The sooner you realize this sad but true fact, the sooner you can get on with finding Mr. Close-Enough-To-Perfect. Prince Charming, riding on a white stallion, lost his way or found Princess Charming and got married on his way to your castle. Get over it and get on with it. You ARE going to have to actively seek the man of your dreams and you won’t find him hiding under your bed. You already know that he isn’t among the men that you are acquainted with so, now what? Online dating is “what”.

It’s true that online dating, while in its infancy, was only made up of perverts, sexual predators, nerds and weirdos but that is no longer true. It has become the main tool of the single person in every developed country in the world. Forty million people can’t all be wrong. Ask your girl friends if they have ever used online dating or are using it now. If they are honest with you, most of them have or are now members of at least one online dating site and maybe more than one. It really is the way to go to meet eligible men who want to meet you. It doesn’t matter what any of your numbers are…like age, height, weight or income either. Somewhere out there in the big wide world there is a man who will like you…..then love you….and think that you are beautiful and desirable. “Beauty is in the eye of the beholder” is true. What is considered beautiful in one part of the world is completely different from what is considered beautiful in another part of the world. It’s even different from one part of this country to another.

Find an online dating site that fits your needs. Write a great profile and post a flattering picture. Start contacting eligible men on the site. Mr. Close-enough-to-perfect could be a few mouse clicks away.

How to Choose the Right Site

2010-04-19T23:02:00.000-07:00

Since online dating sites have really gotten popular it has brought with it a variety of choices. There are free sites… I don’t recommend those but if money is a real concern, they are better than nothing. There are the large paid sites with many and varied features like chat, IM and even matching using profiles. There are the less expensive paid sites with few features. There are special interest sites for almost any thing you can think of...outdoor enthusiasts, couch potatoes, religious, non-religious, gays, lesbians…like I said…almost anything you can think of. So what’s a girl to do? A girl should choose the site or sites that best fit her needs.

Here are some things to consider:

(1) Cost. How much do you want or how much can you spend each month for your membership
(2) Features. Which features are the most important to you?
(A) Profile matching systems. Is this a feature you really want or would you rather decide who is right for you all by yourself?
(B) Chat and IM’s? There are websites who offer chat rooms and IM’s on their sites. Does that matter or would you be happy just sticking to private email.
(C) Outside Events…such as speed dating? Are you interested in that?
(D) Privacy. Some websites allow you to limit who can view your picture or your profile. Does this matter to you or do you want as wide exposure as you can have?
(E) Safety. There are websites who do background checks of all subscribers and certify their age, marital status and background. Would you feel safer using this feature?

These are a few things but not all things you should consider when choosing an online dating service or services. Do your homework and choose wisely for the best results for you.

Internet Date Vs Blind Date

2010-04-18T22:43:00.000-07:00

How many times have you been the victim of a friend that "wanted to help" you with your social life and set you up with a blind date? Someone who's a friend of a friend. You, foolishly, accept. Now there you are. It’s less than one hour since you were introduced. You are sitting in a Thai restaurant and you hate Thai food. The entrée has not yet been served. His idea of enlightened conversation is who will be in the final four…you aren’t into sports. He knows the weekly TV schedule verbatim….you haven’t sat through a movie in months because you run marathons and volunteer at the local food bank. He says, “Volunteering is a waste of time because you can’t help ‘those people’ anyway.” You look at your watch; see that it’s only been 10 minutes since you last looked at it the last time and wonder how long it is before you can gracefully remove yourself from the situation. Been there?

Now imagine a date with someone you met through internet dating and have been chatting online with and exchanging emails with for quite some time. First, you don’t need to be introduced. You already know this man. You are sitting in an Italian restaurant enjoying a delightful meal because you both know that the other’s favorite is Italian. The conversation flows easily as you discuss common interests. He runs marathons and loves history just like you do. You happily discuss the volunteer work that each of you is involved in. You look at your watch and discover that it is late…very late…where Has the time gone.

There is a big difference between a well-intentioned friend “setting you up” and choosing a man for yourself who shares your interests and tastes, isn’t there? Now which one would you rather have?

How to Write a Great Profile - For Women

2010-04-17T22:39:00.000-07:00

All right, now that you have joined a couple of online dating services it's time to learn how to write a great profile. You will want one that will attract attention and reel in the man of your dreams… but where to start? Maybe writing isn’t even something you think you do all that well. Even so, you can do this.

The first thing is to be absolutely honest about yourself. You are looking for that man who will like…maybe someday love…YOU….THE REAL YOU! Examine past relationships and list the things that you liked and the things you did not like. If he smoked in the house and you hated it, you won’t like it any better the next time. If you love cats and will always want to own one or more, say that you are an animal lover and want indoor pets. Someone who hates cats or is allergic to them is not the guy for you.

Accent the things that make you unique. If you play the piano well, you really want Mr. Right to appreciate it. If you run in marathons, a couch potato is not a good match. If you love art, you really don’t want a man who thinks Picasso is an ice cream flavor.

Describe the things that are vital in your life. If volunteering is the one thing that makes you feel useful and worthwhile, you want someone who would, at the very least, support you if not join you in your volunteer projects. When you get beyond superficial things, you will attract men who share your values.

Invest in your online profile by hiring a professional photographer for your first online picture. This is so important. The picture is the FIRST thing men see. The second thing is that they read what you have written about yourself. Some online dating sites even provide you with a list of photographers in your area that specialize in online dating site photos.

"Don'ts" For Women Dating Online

2010-04-16T22:36:00.000-07:00

A woman who is interested in dating online should know that there are certain things she should never do in an online relationship with a guy. These things are certain to put a quick and final end to any further communications with him.

While chatting online or by email do not write your life story. His eyes will glaze over and he will fall out of his chair. Keep it short and sweet until he asks for details…then provide them slowly and only answer the questions he asks. For instance: If he asks how many siblings you have, he is NOT asking for the details of your interaction with them. He really just wants to know how many you have. Say you have 2 (or whatever is true) and then ask how many he has. For every question he asks you, you should ask one of him. Nothing turns a man off like a long- winded woman who just doesn’t know when to shut up or how to listen.

Never, ever, EVER lie. I really believe that lies will catch up with you sooner or later. Many women (and men) lie about their age, marital status, employment, height, weight and a host of other things in their online profiles. That is a huge mistake. If you find a man who you are really interested in, he will find out you lied and there goes any possibility of the relationship progressing. So, just be honest. There is someone out there who will like you…even come to love you…for exactly the person you are.

Don’t be too eager. It makes you look desperate and it really puts a man off. They are first and foremost conquerors and if getting the person of their desires to like them too is just too easy, they will quickly lose interest. I don’t mean play “hard-to-get”. I mean, don’t push for a face-to-face meeting. Don’t email them or IM them too frequently. Play it safe and play it cool.

Avoid These 3 Online Dating Mistakes

2010-04-15T22:43:00.000-07:00

Searching online for the woman of your dreams...your soulmate there are a lot of things you can do right. Sadly, you can, also, do a lot of things wrong….things that will guarantee failure and a broken heart. Out in the “real” world, being aggressive, demanding perfection and even little white lies are all ingredients for success. However, those same qualities are killers when you are dating online and off line, too, for that matter.

There is a big difference between being aggressive or confident and being too aggressive, over-confident, or just plain sleazy or slimy from a woman’s point of view. If you push too hard for a face-to-face, you will come across as too aggressive…maybe even, scary. Try to remember that you are not trying to close a business deal and keep the relationship progressing at a slow but steady pace. Patience is the key.

Nobody is perfect. We are all flawed in some way or another…and that includes you, as well. If you expect the woman to be absolutely perfect and demand that, you will always be disappointed. Demanding perfectionism in your work is one thing. Demanding perfectionism from a friend, co-worker or a lady you are interested in is not just fine. It won’t happen. Expect flaws and just deal with them. Decide the ones you can live with and those you can’t.

Little white lies and false fronts won’t work. Be honest from the beginning of a relationship. Write your profile. Make it interesting but don’t make false statements. The truth will come out eventually anyway. If you say you are a lawyer who makes a million bucks a year and you are really an electrician that makes $75,000, you have set yourself up for failure.

Remember…don’t be too aggressive, expect to ever find perfection or put on a false front.

Online Flirting - Make It An Art

2010-04-14T22:40:00.000-07:00

Even online flirting works to get a relationship started, just like in the real world. It's fun and playful and a way to "test the waters" without getting too heavy. Flirting is an art that requires oozing confidence without being OTT. If you go too far, she will label you “slimy” If you don’t go far enough, she will label you “wimpy”. So how do you achieve that point half way between slimy and wimpy and do it online without using eye contact or body language? All you have is a computer an internet connection and membership in an online dating site, right?

1. Have fun! Be light-hearted, funny and entertaining. Make her eager to talk to you again. Flirting is playful.

2. Ooze confidence. Successful flirts have a positive outlook on life. You need to transmit the “feel good” factor. An optimistic attitude attracts females like honey attracts flies.

3. 3. Compliment her…and do it often and sincerely. Nothing opens doors like making her feel good about herself. She will want to spend more time with you and if she pays you a compliment say “thank you”. Do Not be self depreciating.

4. Listen…listen….listen. Pay attention to what she says and ask appropriate questions. Get her to open up and talk about herself. Make her feel like she is interesting and that you are interested in her. Works wonders!

5. Don’t be rude. Flirting does not include being sexually explicit nor taking offence if the lady isn’t responding to you. If she isn’t interested, take the hint and move on to the next prospect. If you get a lot of rejections, you should probably consider a different approach.

6. Send an email after you chat. This ranks right up there with sending a thank you note for a gift and it is vital to successful flirting.

Don’t try to go too fast. Flirting is the first step to a successful relationship.

Safety For Men Dating Online

2010-04-13T22:38:00.000-07:00

Usually everything you hear about being safe dating online is directed to women, but men need to also be aware. Perverts, sexual predators and weirdos come in both sexes, all sizes, and all ages…as do, liars and cheaters. So men need to stay on guard, too.

It is common knowledge not to readily give out personal information to strangers. The reason for not doing so is as large as the number of strangers who want that information. If you come across a person who is giving out personal information and asking others to do the same, don’t do it. You don’t know what they want to use it for….and you had better believe they want to use it for something. That “something” will not be for your benefit. Men, also, need to guard their real names, addresses, phone numbers, and place of employment. Do not give that information to anyone online until you are confident that they are who they say they are.

Men, be wary of women who seem too financially needy. If they ask for money, in any of a dozen ways women can ask for money, cut the relationship off immediately. They are not looking for love or even friendship….they are looking for financial help.

If a woman gives you a contact number but you cannot ever reach her at that number, beware. If you always have to page them or text them and have them call you back, this could be a sign that what they are telling you is not the complete truth.

A need to get married and insecurity are other signs men should be very wary of. If the woman is pushing too hard for a commitment you aren’t ready to make, it might be a good time to head for the nearest exit.

Why Online Dating is Not a Conest

2010-04-12T22:36:00.000-07:00

Women are not prizes and dating online is not a competition between men for a girls attention.You have to get past that and grow up. Change your mind set from “winning” to “searching”. This isn’t high school. You are all grown up and have been for quite some time, now. Your attitude is the most important asset you have. You should like yourself and not concentrate of all of the things that aren’t YOUR idea of the perfect guy…the one the all women want.

What is that women want, you ask? That’s the age old question. Being of the female persuasion myself, I can tell you a few things women want and don’t want.

Women want a man to be confident…NOT an arrogant jerk. There’s a big difference. You need to like yourself and not be self depreciating but you don’t need to come across like you believe that you are a gift to them from God and have just fallen from the sky. They don’t want you to think that THEY just fell from heaven and are some kind of perfect being, either. They can’t live up to that expectation.

Women want a communicator. The “strong silent type” really isn’t appealing at all. They think you probably don’t have an original thought in your head and you probably haven’t heard a word they said, either or that you just don’t care what they said or didn’t even hear what they said. They want you to be interesting enough to want to know more about you and they want you to think that they are interesting enough to ask intelligent questions about what is important to them, too.

Women do NOT want to be a prize to be won. They don’t want to be a trophy. They want to be the ONE woman that you want to be with.

Dating Online for Single Men

2010-04-11T22:32:00.000-07:00

Men, it doesn't matter what you look like, weigh or how old you are, there are literally thousands of women online ready and eager to meet you and get to know you. It might be short-term or long-term, they are looking for relationships too. If you have found yourself suddenly “on-the-market” again after a relationship has dissolved or are just too busy with your work to spend a lot of time looking for a lady to keep you company, online dating can open the door to the dating scene for you.

The good news is that all you need is a computer and an internet connection to get started. The first thing to do is find an online dating site that fits your needs. There are the large sites that offer many extras like live video chat and even match you up with ladies using your profiles and, also, a lot of sites that cater to special interests like religious preferences, outdoor enthusiasts, gays, etc. You need to choose one or two that will meet your needs. I don’t recommend the free sites. The paid sites have a money back guarantee if you aren’t satisfied and the investment is small. A whole month costs less than one dinner and movie date.

The next thing you need to do is write a killer, but honest, profile and upload a recent but flattering picture of yourself. Now you are all set. Start contacting ladies whose profiles sound interesting to you and answer any lady who contacts you…and do so promptly…not, however, on holidays or weekends. You don’t want to appear that desperate. Don’t give up after a month and think you will never find the right lady for you. New people join online dating services daily and at least half of them are ladies many, of whom, will want to meet you.

Why Online Dating Can Be Tough

2010-04-10T22:29:00.000-07:00

Women don't always tell us their secrets, but here's one you should know: Women, even very beautiful women, like to be approached by a confident and interesting man. Are you surprised? It’s true…and confident and interesting are much more important than looks to ladies of all ages, too. That’s true for internet dating, as well as, dating in your brick and mortar world but we’re talking about internet dating here…so back to the subject at hand.

Once you have joined an online dating service, you will find that there a lot more men than women and that the men are much more likely to browse profiles and make initial contacts than women. Yes, it’s a woman’s world…still. It’s “traditional” for men to make the first move. It always has been and it always will be. Some things never change. That’s why your profile and picture are so important.

Remember…confident and interesting….and that does not translate to cocky and self-centered. It’s important that your profile lets people know that you have friends you care about and that you are passionately interested in a variety of things…not JUST sports. Another thing about that all-important profile….please don’t start it with, “I’m the guy your mama warned you about”.

You will have just shot yourself in the foot with that line. Another one to never use is, “I could be the man of your dreams”. The lady HOPES you are but she will be the judge of that…so don’t insult her intelligence. Remember….exude confidence and interesting and you will find that lady you have been looking for…or she will find you.

Won’t it be nice to have the ladies contacting you instead of you having to do everything? If you write a great profile that stands out in the crowd, that will happen.

Yes, Nice Guys Are Dating Online Too!

2010-04-09T22:27:00.000-07:00

These days there are a lot of nice guys that are dating online. When the phenomenon of online dating sites started several years ago, they were a haven for perverts, sexual predators, nerds, and weirdos of assorted varieties.

That is just no longer the case. All the stigma of online dating is gone. Online dating has gone main stream and is, not only acceptable, but expected. Online dating has become the primary tool of single people of all ages to generate an interesting and rewarding social life.

Let’s face it…we are busy guys. We just simply do not have the time, the energy, or the financial where-with-all to date several nights each week while we look for the “one”. You can sort through hundreds of profiles in a month for less money than you would spend on one evening out, thus, saving time and money. We use the internet to save ourselves time and money for a lot of things like investments, shopping, medical information, and communications.

Why not make use of such a useful tool for our social and personal lives as well? You could find the love of your life. At the very least, you will meet some interesting people and possibly make some lasting friendships. It’s easy to get started. All you need is a computer and an internet connection. You’ll need to search for online dating services that meet your specific needs. They are many and varied.

Join one or two. Then you’ll need to write a great profile, upload a recent picture of yourself and start making and answering contacts. That really is all there is to it…that and patience.

Don’t wait any longer to start your new and interesting social life. Miss or Ms. “Right” could be only a few clicks of the mouse away.

Why Honesty Really is the Best Policy

2010-04-08T22:25:00.000-07:00

When a guy signs up for an online dating service looking for a special girl, he is hoping to find one he can like or even love. That girl is looking for a guy that SHE can like or even love. What you aren’t looking for is a girl who would like your best friend or your idea of what the perfect guy looks like or talks like or thinks like. So, in order to find the right girl for you…and she IS out there…you need to be completely honest with yourself about yourself when writing the online profile, during the dating process and beyond.

The best way to begin writing your profile is to carefully analyze your past relationship (s). What was right? What was wrong? What things really made you like the last girl? Which didn’t? Don’t assume that just because you hated that your last girl was so totally self-involved that she couldn’t see anything else, you’ll be able to overlook that quality this time. You won’t.

If you aren’t 6’1” with a six-pack to be proud of, don’t claim to be. If you are a bar tender, don’t claim to be a lawyer with a six figure income. If you are 40 going on 50, don’t pretend to be 30 something.

Remember, the idea here is to find a girl who will like you exactly like you are. If you have lied in your profile, the first face-to-face meeting will remove all her doubt that you are a liar…and probably a cheat, as well.

Lastly, once you have found a girl that you believe can be the one for you, for goodness sakes, cancel your membership to the online dating service. After all, you know and she knows that online dating services are intended for those who are looking…not those who have found or been found.

Asking the Right Questions Right Off the Bat

2010-04-07T22:21:00.000-07:00

You have labored over writing a great profile and joined a couple of online dating services. You’ve uploaded a good picture and now you are going to chat with a contact. What now? How do you start separating those who have real potential and those who don’t have any potential at all? You need to find out something about who this strange woman really is and not just who she wants you to believe she is. It would be nice if women wore labels like “Gold Digger” or “Daddy’s girl”….but they don’t so it’s up to you to find these things out and you can’t just ask direct questions. You need to know what mistakes you can avoid making and how to impress this lady if you decide you want to do that.

After you are past the initial small talk, ask her, “What are the biggest mistakes guys make when dating online?” Listen carefully to her answers. She’s going to tell you a lot about herself and her views on men in general.

Next you should ask her, “What do you really think about online dating?” Now she will tell you if she has had any bad experiences dating on line and that will help you to avoid making the same mistakes.

Now for the all-important one…..”What caused the break up in your last relationship?” If she puts all the blame on the guy, you should probably move on to the next prospect. If she takes all the blame herself, you should probably do the same. If she says the breakup was by mutual consent or that the relationship just wasn’t right for either of them, you’ve heard the right answer. Move forward but always with caution.

Asking the right questions will give you insight and make you more confident when you meet the lady for the first time.

Secrets ti Successful Online Dating For Men

2010-04-06T22:18:00.000-07:00

Online dating has been extremely popular and more and more people are using the internet to meet people. Women are, in general, terrified of meeting a man that she has been chatting with online. All they have heard about are the scary things that can happen…and, I must say, they have a right to be careful to the extreme. That’s not only wise but vital. So what’s a nice guy to do? You aren’t a pervert, a sexual predator, or a weirdo. You are just a nice guy looking for “the” girl for you.

You must be patient. Don’t press her for personal information like her real name or where she lives. Keep your conversations light and fun until she feels comfortable talking with you online. Don’t try to rush her into meeting face-to-face. She will think you are desperate or a pervert. Patience. Patience. Patience.

Be absolutely honest about your physical appearance and job. A good relationship has never been, and will never be, built on lies and deceit. Eventually she will find out the truth anyway and there you are back at square one.

A picture really is worth a thousand words. Post many pictures of yourself doing your everyday activities and make them full body shots, not just head shots. If you were dating a girl in the real world she wouldn’t just see your head.

Once the discussion has been opened about meeting face-to-face for the first time, suggest that you meet in a very public place, during daylight hours and that she bring a friend with her. After all, you have nothing to hide. You’ve told her the truth about yourself and she has already seen a lot of pictures of you. The only thing left is to make her feel safe meeting you.

Popular Online Dating Practices For Men

2010-04-05T22:13:00.000-07:00

Men, women like the same things online that work in the offline dating world. Let's look at some dating tips for men that will help in your matchmaking efforts on the web.

Looks Count
Comment on how attractive she is. Yes, women do want to know they are pretty, even if they’re online and you can’t see them and have no idea. So in your communications, ask questions that would help you know, but in an unobtrusive way like – how do you wear your hair? And then say how attractive that must look.

Kindness Counts
Point out nice things or the lemonade in life – nice things the other person has mentioned, nice acts the person has done, good things on the news latterly, etc. Be upbeat, and forget those lemons in life. Even in email a person can shout, by using all capital letters. So show manners and kindness. Keep swearing, unkind remarks, prejudice, etc. out of your communications. And “do unto others….”

So add some helpful real-world tips that do work (a lot of the time anyway) into your online dating equations. And come up on the positive side of romance – and enjoy more lemonade!

Online Dating Activities That Are Popular

2010-04-04T22:10:00.000-07:00

There are more varied activities online all the time. Activities like greeting cards and sharing photos are popular and are ones that can go hand in hand with online dating.

Before actually meeting in person, many dates get acquainted online first. Here’s how.

Photos - As a wonderful keepsake of your budding romance, create an online photo album for your new cyber-mate. Include digital photos of favorite outdoor scenes, pets, flowers, cars, silly moments, your computer corner or laptop, etc. Then you’ll even have more to discuss during online dates via emails and chat rooms. Search for “photo albums” to find places that store your photos.

Greeting Cards- Regardless of where the person lives, you can mail a greeting card. If privacy and security is an issue, check into renting an inexpensive P.O. Box (check the Yellow Pages). You do not have to be an artist to make something homemade and special for the new friend in your life. Even making a special, personalized greeting card would be appreciated and show your date that you care enough to take the time needed to make something by hand. Search your favorite search engine for online greeting cards to send, too. They range from free to low cost and can be sent in a click.

So get online and get active! No need to risk meeting in person until you get more familiar with each other online first. So take the online plunge!

Some Popular Online Dating Activities

2010-04-03T22:06:00.000-07:00

Sharing recipes and bidding on auctions are popular online activities. And both of these easily fit well into online dating opportunities, one of the most popular online activities for singles today.

To help many dates get better acquainted online, here’s what potential cyber-dates do.

Sharing Recipes – People get tired talking about the weather. So a popular subject to turn to is food. Sharing favorite foods and recipes helps break the ice and even forms friendships over culinary skills – or lack of – and tastes. Search your favorite search engine for “free recipes” to share. Take photos of your culinary creations and share them with your date, too.

Bidding at Auctions – Ebay auctions sell nearly anything and everything! So surf around and enter searches like the dates you were in middle school. Share cool memorabilia photos of old games and toys from when you were a child or when your parents or grandparents were little; The Dating Game, Oscar Mayer wiener whistles, The Partridge Family Album, Bobby Sherman’s Album, 45’s and more.

Online dating can be an educational and fun experience. So learn more about each other and have fun while you’re at it. Take a cyber-stroll down memory lane together and see what’s cooking.

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Online Dating Relationships Take Time to Grow

2010-04-02T21:03:00.000-07:00

Just like their counterpart in the real world, online relationships need tlc and time to grow. Check out these quick tips for growing.

1. Take time and make time. Does your online date get in touch with you regularly? Do you do the same? Neglecting virtual meetings can be considered abuse or neglect, so treat each other’s time with respect. If it’s lacking, might mean time to move on.

2. Communication needs to “feel” right for both of you. If one of you is too pushy about meeting, for instance, that can give off bad vibes. So don’t rush. Take time to learn more about each other and develop trust. Lay out the guidelines at the beginning.

3. Respect each others privacy. Don’t share personal email addresses or digital photos online, for example, if your online date sent you the information in confidence.

4. Share special online and offline fun times. Online – send greeting cards, links to favorite places to upload digital photos of your favorite pet, download music and video clips, post on favorite forums of interest. Offline- if you’re exchanging addresses or post office boxes, send print greeting cards and postcards, small items from your area (like a key chain with your state bird).

Tend your online relationship. Water it with care and over time it can sprout and grow.

PracticeSafety First in Online Dating

2010-04-01T20:56:00.000-07:00

Online dating can open up a lot of opportunities. But don’t neglect safety and common sense when you try to hook up with a mate. At minimum, take caution in the following areas:

Protecting Your Computer

Take care of your equipment and systems before you head out into the Internet realm. You need to have a firewall and anti-virus protection for your email and for when you search websites and interact online. At the bare minimum, you may want these two solutions that are offered at no charge to home computer users (i.e. not for commercial use):

Free Firewall Download: ZoneAlarm
Free Anti-Virus Download: AVG Anti-Virus

Protecting Yourself

Take care of yourself, too, by choosing appropriate dating sites. Seek and choose a reputable online dating service. How? Begin by asking around with friends, neighbors, co-workers and others you may know who have tried online dating, and see which places they recommend. In addition, search “online dating services” and keep a notebook of their URLs or website links, the fees, rules and regulations, complete contact information of each and any other useful information that spikes your interest. Then compare each place. Try only those places where you feel safe. Avoid the others.

So take care. Arm your computer – and yourself- with the correct tools and knowledge!

Internet Dating Tips - A to Z

2010-01-28T14:20:00.000-08:00

Internet Dating Tips

If you’re single then you’ve no doubt heard that online dating is one of the best ways to meet a potential new romantic partner. Here are a few internet dating tips to help you start out.

Picking out an online dating service -

The first internet dating tip I can offer is to find an online dating service that suits your dating goals. Different online dating services cater to the varying needs of different people. For example, some cater to singles looking for a serious long term relationship or even marriage. Others are geared towards more flirtatious or casual internet dating. Determine what you’re looking for from your dating experience and then take a trial with the dating service that suits.

Filling out your profile -

Always ensure you are careful not to divulge any personal information that isn’t absolutely necessary. Primarily you want to communicate with honesty the things you like, dislike, and what you are specifically seeking from your date. Online dating can be a great experience but it can also be soured when you waste yours and other people’s time pretending to be someone you’re not. The only way to find the right partner is to be honest about who you are.
There are millions of singles registered across many internet dating services, so here’s the tip: there’s no need to pretend – there will be many people interested in the real you. Once you’re in contact with a potential date, maintain your honesty. Being honest simply entails being yourself.

Keep a list of questions handy -

The right questions will help you quickly determine if the other person is like their profile suggests. Ask direct questions to find out a little about their likes and dislikes. Ask broad questions to learn more about their life and previous relationships. A good ice breaker is to ask about their experiences with online dating – doing so can be quite informative about the other person. Their answer may even give you some additional internet dating tips on what to avoid.

For every answer you receive volunteer one of your own. This way your potential date can see you’re not merely questioning them, but are openly sharing.

Proceed with your online dating interactions slowly -

With many on line dating services you may find someone to go on a date with very quickly. If things do move quickly because you really click with someone then that is fantastic. The internet is a great vehicle for remaining anonymous for as long as you can – maintaining a little mystery can help build interest in the other persons mind. It also helps to protect you should you find that the person you are speaking to really isn’t the type of person you initially thought they were.

Patience is one of the best internet dating tips you’ll ever get -

Take your time and you will find that the benefits of chatting with and flirting with someone for a longer period of time will make your date all the more exciting and successful when you finally meet in real life. By taking things slowly, you will also give yourself time to interact with the person on many occasions. This will allow you time to learn more about the person, which can help you to determine if they are consistent and honest. The more you can interact before you meet, the more you will get a “feel” for who they really are.

Remember that you are interacting with real people with real hearts -

You should also remember that whilst on line dating may seem like a game, it is not a game. Just as you would not want to be lied to in real life and ultimately have your heart broken, so too should you be careful to remain honest and not lead your potential date on.

Be honest with your interactions; be honest with your profile. Keep as much mystery about your personal details as you can, but share as much information that doesn’t personally identify you as you can. Take your time to get to know your date and, when finally you meet, there will be no surprises.

The final suggestion in our short list of the best internet dating tips is this: above all else aim to enjoy the online dating experience. Have fun. On line dating should be a healthy, enjoyable experience for all.

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Adult Online Dating Guide-Guide to Hooking Up With Your Dream Partner

2010-01-27T11:47:00.000-08:00

Are you single and keen about a serious relationship but busy with your daily schedule? Do you feel that you’re missing the essence of life? Of course this phase of loneliness is experienced by every single person. Many adults have started to use adult dating online services to fill that void. Online dating can be the key to an entire new world. The key to change your lifestyle in a most exciting and fascinating way by meeting your compatible partner, or soul mate through internet dating websites.

In this contemporary world, it is very tough to find your Mr.or Ms.Right. Before you actually dive in to any kind of a relationship, why don’t you set your priorities? Online dating enables you to first categorize and select people who have the same tastes and similar likes and dislikes. Once you log in and create your own profile in any of the online dating websites, your search of your life partner begins. Searching for your soul mate is not an easy task. So to unravel the task of finding your partner, here are some guidelines that should be followed while dating online.

Create an attractive profile: Your profile should depict your personality. The websites allow you to create your profile with photos and information about your hobbies and other relevant details portraying your character. Create your profile in such a way that captivate other's heart, while being truthful about yourself.Be as up front as possible if you are serious about finding someone compatible to you.

Dating online is definitely different from the regular dating scenario. Online dating gives you the option of selecting a partner of your choice.You can take all the time you want deciding if you want to take the next step. You set the pace and can take the time to get to know the other person before meeting them. Since people do sometimes create false profiles, it is best to move slowly and try and discover as much as possible about the person you are interested in.

Limit your personal info: You may think it's obvious, but be careful about revealing personal information. Just let them know the required information at the beginning. Cut down on the risk and move cautiously. When you do arrange to meet for the first time, make sure you are in a public place in case things do go wrong.

Opportunity to chat: You can always chat with a person of your choice, and if the other person reciprocates to your chat, try to get to know their interests and hobbies. This is a great, low key way to find out if you can mesh with the other person. When you become more familiar with each other, you will be more at ease when you plan for a date.

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Online Dating SCAMS

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Before you even think about online dating, you must know about dating scams.

This is serious: if you get too deeply involved, a dating scam can significantly hurt not only your heart, but your finances, too.

Make sure you know how to protect yourself from fraud when using dating sites!

Internet personals, online introduction agencies and matchmaking sites allow anyone to join for free, and they usually do not screen their members. It means you never know who is behind this pretty photo: a real beautiful woman or a con artist who downloaded a photo of an unknown model from the Internet.

There are four types of online dating scams:

1. Prostitute scam;
2. Phone scam;
3. Travel scam;
4. Nigerian postal scam.

Let me tell you more about these scams.
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1. Prostitute scam

Prostitutes are straightforward: they place profiles on dating sites to solicit business. Such profiles are usually easily recognized by sleazy user names and steamy self-descriptions. They don't waste time letting you know what they are after.

2. Phone scam

This is the variation of the old phone scam: the person asks you to call them, and when you do, you get a bill in the mail for hundreds of dollars (1900 number).

3. Travel scam

The person resides overseas and asks you to help them with travel expenses to visit you.

4. Nigerian postal scam

The person pretends to be a relative of a diseased government official who asks for your help in a financial transaction.
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So, how can you protect yourself from being taken by Internet con artists using online personals to reach their victims?

Here is the simple guidance that will make your use of online dating sites safe and secure.

First, when you view a profile, look out for the things like a sleazy user name, especially if it's a woman: guys cannot stop thinking about sex 24/7 (and it's normal) - but women normally don't do it. Sincere women don't choose user names like "the_sweetest_sin", "ms_right_now" etc.

Second, read what the profile says: people milking others for money will say something vague that can fit anyone.

Third, look at the photos: gorgeous professional photos in combination with vague profile almost always mean trouble. People with beautiful photos receive LOTS of mail, so they become VERY selective and include many requirements in their profiles (especially women).

Basically, any woman who talks about loving sex and experimenting in bed is most likely not for real.

Any man who talks about being a millionaire isn't for real either.

It doesn't mean there are no women who love sex and experimenting in bed or millionaires on the site - they just DO NOT talk about that in their profiles.

And any person who does, is a liar.

Simple.

Another HUGE warning is overseas profiles. Often people would list their location as being local and when you start talking to them, they reveal they are from overseas (Niger.ia, Russia, etc).

Such profiles should be treated as potential scams - always.

If the location in the personal profile doesn't match what the person says about him/herself, my advice is to drop it altogether and don't waste your time.

If you decide to proceed, do it for entertainment purposes only and don't get emotionally attached.

What will happen, sooner or later you will get a money request in some form - they need money for a sick relative, they want to visit you and need money for tickets, etc - whatever the reason, there WILL be a money request.

When this happens, you can play along and have some fun, asking for instructions and promising to send them money - just don't actually SEND it.

If you do, there are two variants: they will disappear or ask for MORE money (hey, if you were so stupid to send it once, why not try again!) - and keep asking for more money until you stop sending it.

Don't even HOPE this is for real.
Because it's NOT.

You may want to believe it is, but better believe ME: I am a real person and you can ring me and have a chat with me. With those people, you can't.

So, who would you choose to believe: me, who tells you this is a scam - or them, who ask you for money (which you can NEVER recover)?

I work in online dating since 1999 - I KNOW.

Trust me on that.

Long distance + request for money = SCAM.

Forget any sweet stories you've heard in between - and any sweet pictures, too. Most likely, the pics are downloaded from the Net and belong to some model. (Hey, there were even scammers using MY OWN pictures! ;-))

Guys are more vulnerable to this one than girls: I have never heard about a woman who wired thousands of $$$ to some guy to come and visit her - but the Internet is PLASTERED with stories of men sending money to their non-existing female admirers.

How wonderful... this perfect female specimen cannot wait to get hold of your zip and provide you with the greatest pleasure you ever experienced!! OF COURSE she sincerely loves you and is different from any woman you met before (and probably a couple of generations younger than you as well).

C'mon mate: those perfect Playboy-type exemplars dying to try your new sheets exist only in the virtual reality of your correspondence.

They are as real as Santa Claus or Niger.ian millions. You know this one: you get a mail from a relative of a deceased top government official who begs your assistance in transferring large sums of money (stolen from the country's people obviously) - and easily promising to give you a few millions if you simply allow them to use your bank account. The people may list themselves as being from Nigeria, or any other African country.

This one is as clear as daylight, so if anyone starts talking about money transfers, honesty and trust, simply BLOCK them.

Remember the formula:

Long distance + request for money = SCAM.

I hope this article will help you protect yourself from dating scams and you will only meet honest, sincere and genuine singles from now on.

Happy hunting! :-))

ABOUT THE AUTHOR:

Elena Solomon is a dating coach.

Her latest book "12 Simple Rules" became #1 'Love & Romance' bestseller in the leading ebook distribution service in just ONE WEEK after the release. It shows you EXACTLY how you can utilize the natural laws of attraction and our in-built sexual strategies to win in the game of love. A special part in the book is devoted to online dating.

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